Feeling of the Week - Resigned
😤 Feeling of the Week: Resigned
Definition:
Resigned is the emotional state that occurs when you've stopped hoping for change—not because you’re at peace, but because you’re worn out. It’s the quiet surrender that follows prolonged frustration, disappointment, or helplessness.
It often masquerades as calm or indifference, but underneath is a sense of emotional depletion and suppressed pain.
Emotional Equation for Resigned:
Resigned = Repeated Disempowerment + Emotional Exhaustion – Hope
In other words:
When you feel powerless over and over again, and your energy is drained long enough, your hope takes a hit—and resignation sets in. You’re not choosing peace; you’re coping by disengaging.
When "It Is What It Is" Starts to Hurt
You didn’t start your job feeling hopeless. But over time, when nothing changes and your voice isn’t heard, that quiet slide into resignation can feel inevitable.
Resignation doesn’t always show up as loud frustration. Sometimes it sounds like:
“There’s no point in saying anything.”
“This is just how it is here.”
“I’ve stopped caring—it’s easier.”
But here’s the truth: resignation isn’t emotional peace—it’s emotional depletion wearing a mask. It's your brain trying to protect you from the exhaustion of hope.
Why This Feeling Matters
Resignation often kicks in when you’ve been coping for too long without real support or change. It’s a natural response to sustained stress, unclear power dynamics, or emotional dissonance at work.
It signals that your psychological capital—especially hope and efficacy—might be running low.
What You Can Do
Name It. The moment you say “I think I’m feeling resigned,” you give yourself a sliver of power back.
Interrupt It. Even a micro-act of agency (speaking up, pushing back, making a different choice) can shift the internal narrative.
Restore Fuel. You need more than rest—you need something that reconnects you to possibility.
This week’s coping skill is one powerful way to start.
👉 [Read: Coping Skill of the Week – Boundary Scripts]
